We don’t want to be pitied, but we aren’t always open about telling people how they can help us. How would you like to be helped?
I am writing this based on what has happened to me in my Migraine life, and how I wish to be treated instead.
*When you see that I’m wearing an ice pack on my head please don’t ask me if I have a headache when I know that you know I do. I wouldn’t mind if it happened a few times, but this happens just about everytime we’re together.
*If I say I’m not hungry and will eat something later, please don’t call from the restaurant to ask for the third time if I want some takeout. What might be construed as kindness actually comes across as being complete insensitivity, and I don’t think you are.
*Loud non-stop talking is torturous. Is there anyway to lower the boom a few octaves? And maybe when you’re talking to yourself, can you make it an internal dialogue? I love you, but I really wonder if you feel the same, or I’d think you’d make more an effort on the times when we’re together.
*If I’m light hearted, laughing and talking with you, please don’t ask if I have a headache today.
*This one is for my dear husband: Turn down the TV!!!
*And lastly, it’s not just a headache. It’s a Migraine. Please read about it on-line so that you can help me just by being there. You’re not a physician, so the worry about curing me is totally off your shoulders.
June 2013, Migraine and Headache Awareness Month, is dedicated to Unmasking the Mystery of Chronic Migraine and Headache Disorders.
The 2013 Migraine and Headache Awareness Month Blog Challenge is a project of http://FightingHeadacheDisorders
Thank you for all your hard work in putting this project together to raise awareness for Chronic Migraine and Headache Disorders: FightingHeadacheDisorders.com, Teri, Diana and Ellen!